How to Start New When The Papers Are Signed

Updated: Mar 12

Early in my divorce process I envisioned throwing a huge celebratory party once my divorce was final. What sounded fun and invigorating was slowing chipped away along with my energy, positive mindset and pocketbook. By the time my divorce was settled my reaction wasn’t celebratory, it was anticlimactic.


When my attorney emailed me my final divorce agreement, I was on an airplane with my daughter waiting to take off to the Dominican Republic for a much needed winter holiday break filled with warm, sunny and fun days. It afforded me some time to start to clear my head.


I wish I could say that I actually cleared my head. Instead my mind went racing, filled with a lot questions and thoughts about what to literally do next, especially with “all the stuff” I was going to facing when returned home. “That stuff” was full of memories and things we bought and collected during the course of my marriage.

First, I can tell you that I DID NOT DEAL with “all that stuff” immediately. I was too emotionally drained. BUT I did think through how I was best going to approach tacking “the stuff” and within a few weeks start making the house feel like my and my daughter’s home.

Over the course of the next weeks and months I put my plan into action. The decisions on what to keep, what to purge, and big question mark items really helped me not only clear the clutter, but start to heal, refresh and reclaim my personal space and life.


Start Cleaning and Decluttering “that Stuff” and Regain Your Life

Ready to get started? Here are four suggestions to get your post-divorce clean and declutter home project underway.


  1. Do it when you're ready

  2. Prioritize and start with the least stressful area

  3. Let the decluttering begin: keep, purge, not sure

  4. Donating or selling? Decide what to do with purged items

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