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5 Tips for Getting the Divorced Family Off to A Good School
Year Start

I have always loved the start of a new school year and all the excitement, buzz, and positive energy that comes - with one exception. For the divorced family there is an extra challenge that comes with the new school year:  making the new school year schedule work within the complexity of a two-household family. 


Over the years, our two-household family has figured out a coordinated co-parent school year schedule and life that works for us.  We have had our share of bumps and adjustments, but we make it work for us and our daughter. Keeping her and her development front and center has been key.  Sharing a few of our tips here to help you and your divorced family get off to a smoother school year start.

  1. Reset goals, priorities, expectations and boundaries for your children  

  2. Combine all calendars and schedules into one online calendar for the upcoming school year

  3. Communicate early and often 

  4. Establish similar school night routines across both homes

  5. Make tracking expenses easy and stress free

 1. Reset goals, priorities, expectations and boundaries

  • Talk with your co-parent about your child’s anticipated school year - academics,  physical and/or mental health, use of electronics and involvement in  extracurricular activities. 

  • As a united front, schedule a family meeting to discuss school year goals, priorities, activities etc. 

 


2. Combine all calendars and schedules into one online family,

    school and activities calendar

  • Decide which parent takes the lead in managing the custody management/family activities calendar. 

  • Use a co-parenting online and/or mobile app calendar that enables parents to give access to anyone transporting the kids to activities. Check out Our Family Wizard, Cozi, 2Houses, Google Calendar and Apple’s Calendar. 

 

3. Communicate early and often

  • Keep teachers, coaches and tutors informed of any dual household challenges that can impact your children’s participation or behavior. 

  • Try to attend teacher-parent meetings together so no one is responsible for “reporting back”.

  • With your co-parent, decide how the two of you will work with children on homework and school projects and manage any special issues impacting your children’s well-being. If family meetings are possible, get them on the family calendar and set a few minutes aside to keep things on track and communication open.

 

4. Keep similar routines when possible

  • As we all know, children love routine.  With your co-parent, try creating similar school night routines such as before bed and lunch preparation.  If this is not possible, focus on one or two things that can be implemented in both homes.

  • Share some successes you’re experiencing at your home.  If playing outside for

       30 minutes after school helps homework go smoother, share this win.  

 

 

5. Make Tracking Expenses Easy and Stress-Free

  • If your parenting agreement does not include school related expenses, try to discuss sharing these expenses with your co-parent and track them in an online shared system.

  • Consider getting a credit card solely for the use of shareable children expenses.